# Selections from [notes on what he learned](https://civilizationemerging.com/what-i-learned-about-being-a-man-from-my-dad/) from his father, Randy - Orderliness is a quality of the unified field itself. Create order in any environment first. - Don’t let fear of pain or death keep you from doing the right thing. - Don’t be controlled by attraction. There are many good reasons to be intimate with someone, only some of which involve attraction. - Wholeness is the most important word. Then integrity. - Notes - This is presented in a standard hetero bi-gender narrative framework. That is how it was presented to me. Of course many of these principles apply to all people independent of gender. And of course some men won’t resonate with all of these practices as how they choose to be a man. Also important to note that many of these represent one side of a dialectic that on their own could create imbalances. And that there are functional and less functional expressions of most of the ideas here, where the subtleties matter. - My Mom was incredible! She taught me the arts, crafts, culture, world religion, and engaged me early in activism. Was always positive and a delight to be around. My childhood was very much the synergy of the two of them. This note was motivated by gratitude for some aspects of masculinity that have been less painful for me than many, and the wish that more men had good resources on these topics. - My Dad had a very unique and hard life that cultivated the physical heroism in him: his father was a Green Beret, he grew up in very violent areas, family was in construction and military, physical abuse that made him indifferent to pain, etc. Plus he was just a physically big guy. One does not need to run towards bullets to be someone who lives with deep integrity and is in service to life. That is just one way those qualities can express. # Dominic Zijlstra on Founder Satsang, [[2024-06-29]] For anyone enjoying the Schmachtenberg podcast, I really recommend watching part 2 (recorded just two weeks ago). It’s deeply inspiring and hopeful, and might be helpful for many in this group deciding what to dedicate their time and effort to. Some of my favorite bits: How to stop the multipolar trap (eg the arms race, AI race, race to market): https://youtu.be/tmusbHBKW84?si=Lz1Rmt4nYN1AhDmT&t=4191 The digital universe has narcissism built into it, whereas in nature nobody would ever get the idea that they’re more important than someone (or something) else: https://youtu.be/tmusbHBKW84?si=k9uzHC7ZPU4pGO11&t=5513 Focus your time on maintaining what already is, and appreciating the miracle of our existing that has been in the making for billions of years: https://youtu.be/tmusbHBKW84?si=hsxyWwIHi1QDIYLY&t=6182 Authentic progress mirrors nature: everything that comes out of the soil goes back into it: https://youtu.be/tmusbHBKW84?si=hPtZ9QgChT1MkeKI&t=9036 Most words in English are nouns, which creates a world view that separates things, where things can be optimized at the expense of others. In indigenous language, language revolves around ever evolving processes and the interconnectedness and wholeness of everything. There’s a danger in teaching just names: https://youtu.be/tmusbHBKW84?si=SXDtdDJNOivJolqu&t=10156 Signs of authentic progress and awareness in the world, of meaningful deeper, slower action in touch with wholeness and not driven from ego (I felt really inspired by this part and feel many in this group are wanting to make or already making this kind of authentic progress): https://youtu.be/tmusbHBKW84?si=5chFKkE3mqLHjddl&t=11539 Dark triad: Sociopathy, narcissism, Machiavellianism A public corporation is an obligate sociopath https://overcast.fm/+2tlWJ3Ak8/1:01:09 The digital universe is conducive to narcissism https://overcast.fm/+2tlWJ3Ak8/1:32:53